“Balancing stress and recovery is critical not just in competitive sports, but also in managing energy in all facets of our lives.” The Power of Full Engagement by Tony Schwartz and Jim Loehr.
Have you ever heard of the “Ripple Effect”?
Can you picture throwing a stone into a smooth pool of water and what happens to the water just from the impact of the stone?
Now put that into the perspective of your life.
Can you see a “Ripple Effect” that may be happening in your life, based on how you are living, right now?
I saw a post on Facebook from a Psychologist, using the glass analogy.
Instead of a glass half full or half empty, she says just hold that glass.
How long will your body be able to maintain holding that glass up, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months?
This analogy puts how you may be living your life into perspective. How long can your body endure being pushed to the max?
What is the “Ripple Effect” of having to hold that “glass” longer than necessary?
Constantly getting sick?
Always angry at our family?
Overeating or over drinking?
Job performance is slipping?
Tired all the time?
And the thought of exercise, just makes you more tired?
Total confession here, I have to admit, I have been guilty of trying to hold up that glass, much longer than I needed.
And this is what would happen… (My own Ripple Effect)
My workouts would suffer or become few and far between,
Eating a good meal was the last thing on my mind
I would either skip my meals or just eat whatever was in front of me
Ranging from protein bars, gluten free chips, many cups of coffee, or even a ½ bottle of wine
I only had enough energy to do the simple, easy daily tasks, no creating, nothing new (took too much energy)
And everything would make me cry or get angry, from one end of the emotional spectrum to the next.
What did I find worked for me to stop holding the glass all the time?
How did I create a new positive “Ripple Effect” in my life?
I just stopped!
I actual had to model the behavior I was recommending for all of the people I was serving.
It became that old story that we often hear.. “do as I say, not as I do… and that really didn’t sit well with what I wanted to teach and share.
Actions truly do speak louder than words, it shows proof, validity, and trust in the value of our words.
How can this happen? Well first is getting truthful and honest with my self about my actions.
No shaming just being honest.
Then it was time to ask for help from my mentors, the people who have been where I have been.
Yes it was letting go of my “pride”, listening to the advice (I already knew) and put it into actionable steps ..
Ahh.. this is when I remembered my Metabolic Effect Group class training…
(The opening statement says it all..)
“This is a rest based workout.
That means that you actually want to rest in this workout.
If you do this workout correctly, you could be resting as much as you are working.
Your goal is to push as hard as you can, force yourself to rest… then get back into it.”
(Introduction to Metabolic Effect group workout created by Dr. Jade Teta and Dr. Keoni Teta)
So a workout is recommending that you rest?
“..FORCE YOURSELF TO REST”?
In other words, stop pushing so hard…PUT THE GLASS DOWN!
I had to “REST”, in order for me to “GET BACK INTO IT”, at my best.
By resting, and forcing myself to take a break, the results or “Ripple Effect” for me was the ability to now be fully engaged in my life again.
And now I no longer feel like that “imposter” dolling out advice I don’t follow. I live my life taking my rest “forcing myself to rest”, so I can “get back into it”.
How did I do it, and what can I do to help you stop the negative “Ripple Effect” in your life?
1. STOP being the “Hero” or the “Victim in your life
As a business owner, that happens to be a fitness business, I can get caught up in the necessity to keep moving and doing.
Because no one cares as much as I do right?
WOW! That is so egotistical and selfish.
It didn’t really occur to me, until I stopped, I was a total hypocrite.
Telling my clients to rest, take days off, be sure to feel rested, and here I was pushing, pushing, pushing… IMPOSTER!
No longer do I say this and feel like an imposter. I turn off, let things wait, and I take a rest.
2. TIME HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT
There is always 24 hours in a day. Yet if you are holding a glass that whole time, it is has nothing to do with time; it has everything to do with the energy you have in that 24 hours.
How much energy can you muster to be your best…?
Employee, Boss, Mother, Father, Son, Daughter, Friend, Partner, Lover, Person
If you are always holding the glass “all the time”?
Even professional athlete’s build in their rest and off season. If they didn’t then their careers tend to be cut short by over working and stressing their bodies.
As most of us are not professional athletes, we live under the premise that we have to keep going full steam ahead “all the time”.
Taking daily energy breaks, throughout the day, building in your rest can totally help.
A hack I have built into most my days is taking breaks every 90 minutes. Whether it is taking the dogs for a walk, listening to a podcast, drinking some water or sitting outside in the sun.
As a practice this is a habit that sometimes goes off track, however when I choose to follow it, I find the quantity and quality of the work I do goes up exponentially.
The trick with taking breaks is doing something that will re-energize you rather drain you.
Word of caution though…If eating a “snack” (even a “healthy” snack can do this), sitting in front of the T.V., or scrolling through Social Media, leaves you feeling like you want to ditch the day, then you may want to do something else.
3. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE AT REST
There is something to be said about saying it is okay to a take break and rest.
And as much as I thought I had it all together, I had to go back to my mentors and advisors, in order to give myself permission to rest.
The work will always be there, but I found I wasn’t getting anything productive or fulfilling done by always being “at it”.
So I say to myself, “work as hard as I can, then rest, rest completely, so I can get back into it!”
If you know that you are trying so hard to hold onto that glass and it is having a negative “Ripple Effect” on your life, heed my advice (from my own personal experience).
In order to work as hard as you can, you need to rest and rest completely!
If you find yourself struggling with stopping and starting because you are always trying to hold the glass, then we are here to help. We can be those “mentors” or voices of reason providing the tools to help you get the best out of your exercise, nutrition, and overall life..