It was quite inspiring to read the exclamations and the declarations as to how the roll should be placed and why. Even had a study sent regarding the reasoning behind why toilet paper should be over and not under.
I can understand the passion and the need to have the toilet paper hanging in the right direction. Honestly I never really paid much attention to where I placed it until I asked others. I just automatically placed it on the roll hanging over. Didn’t think about it, I just did it.
This got me thinking about routines, rituals and habits that we all have, and probably don’t even realize they are rituals or habits. What we used to “think” about we now just do. It is a part of our DNA.
When did this ritual become automatic for me? Not sure I even remember, I suppose it started while I was growing up, and that is how my parents placed the roll, so that is how I placed the roll.
This idea of habits, rituals and routines resonates with me and how I currently live my life. As much as I want to say I am totally spontaneous, I know that in order to be spontaneous I had to develop my rituals and routines, otherwise I would always be dealing with chaos, ignoring my own needs and being dragged into others chaos or problems.
It was interesting to see how many people found having the toilet paper hanging over as a necessary part of their day. If it was not so, it was uncomfortable enough for them to change the roll, or to fix it, to feel safe and comfortable again. And that is how I feel about my daily life.
If something is off or out of routine or ritual it makes me uncomfortable and I want to fix it.
Now here is the thing if your life of routine and rituals is being effected by another, what do you do? What if your husband put the toilet paper roll on hanging under?
Do you always fix it and not say anything? Do you yell and scream and throw the roll at his head for not doing what you asked, putting the roll hanging over?
Or do you teach him that this ritual is important to you, and in order for you to get along with him and your daily life, you would appreciate if he honors you with this request.
You are probably saying, Jen really, he has been doing it for years and he will never listen to me… And you know what, that is okay because at least you are doing your best to establish what you want and how you want it, then let go of the response or the outcome.
Now what I am a really getting at here?
Well guess what, sometimes it is up to you to teach those around you what you want and how you want to establish healthy successful rituals. If you are feeling like your life is out of control, you keep trying to get to the gym, you keep trying to eat for you, you keep trying… but family, life, job always seems to get in the way.
It really isn’t about the toilet paper, it is about you taking charge of what you want and not blaming, or allowing those around you to take away what you want to achieve, the toilet paper hanging over.
If you feel like your friends, family, coworkers and neighbors are taking away your ability to workout, eat right and be healthy, GUESS WHAT? , that is all on you, not them.
Honestly have you ever started a program and they are less than supportive? You do your best to establish what you want and they don’t really follow through, so you quit, give up and get mad at them for always doing this to you?
Now this brings us back to those rituals, routines and habits. It is possible that your ritual is starting something and stopping based on how uncomfortable you feel, establishing boundaries, asking for what you want, expecting a complete buy in by those around you.
When you have set a habit of always dropping what you are doing for the sake of being needed by others or being the hero or being the only voice of reason, you are only doing yourself and those around you a disservice.
So what do you do if your life is driven by the next big catastrophe, everyone always looking to you to fix the toilet paper roll, or you’re comfortable with always to being out of sync or chaotic?
If this is getting you your best life now then go for it, keep doing what you are doing and keep on keeping on.
Yet I have found especially in my own life and growth that type of living is unfulfilled and really taxing on my health. I have met so many people in this business that allow all the external factors take over and they come to me looking for some relief. Is it really about having the toilet paper hanging over or is it about wanting some comfort from your chaotic life?
An awesome book that I have read several times and always go back to is “The Compound Effect” by Darren Hardy.
Hardy talks about creating new habits for success (not just financial and business but life as well). He drills it home with this question “Who do I need to become?” BOOM!
Wow does that sound about right, “who do I need to become?” to be successful, not what do I have to do, but who do I need to be?
Hardy points this out when one of his good friends Jim Rohn, highly successful coach and motivational speaker, taught him this
“If you want more you have to become more. Success is not something you pursue. What you pursue will elude you; it can be like trying to chase butterflies. Success is something you attract by the person you become.”
As I said earlier this is all about you and who you need to be in order to get what you need out of life. If you are struggling and you are constantly putting out fires, taking care of everyone else’s needs and getting extremely irritated that you still have to put the toilet paper roll on right, maybe you need to change your current life habits, “who do you need to become” in order to overcome these struggles in your life.
I highly recommend if you are looking for a change and don’t know where to begin. Start by getting Darren Hardy’s book, read it and use it, he has a full resource guide to help you start the process of changing and creating new and better habits and rituals.
Would love to hear if this is a big struggle and or your opinion on the toilet paper roll.