When you think of the word Fit or Fitness, what images pop into your head? Do you picture yourself as you are now? Do you see an image that can be on a magazine, in a movie or of yourself 10 years ago?
How we view “FIT” can be very personal. Our our belief of “fit” may be based on images and messages we receive surrounding “FITNESS.
With that information, we decipher how we think we SHOULD be with our own Fitness. We believe we “should” be working out in a gym so we join and never go. The belief that we “should” be training for a 5K (because we were on the track team in High School), so we buy running shoes, even do a 5k when our knees are swollen and screaming every time we take a step.
Maybe we even decide to “try out” a Personal Trainer, because we believe they will whip us into shape and motivate us.
Does any of this resonate with you?
What you are experiencing when you feel this way is completely normal. Whether you are suffering through it or you are feeling drained by not doing it, the very thought of “FITNESS” can be exhausting, it happens to a lot of us. Therein lies some of the conflict we may have when we are trying to seek our own “FITNESS”.
This is where it can get hairy, RIGHT?
We often get in trouble when we say, “I want to be FIT” or “They don’t look FIT” or “I would have thought you were more FIT”;
Honestly, What does FIT really mean? Is it how you “look”, is it how you “feel” or is it who you are?
If you are willing, let’s try an exercise to help weed through your current beliefs vs finding your own TRUE DEFINITION OF YOUR IDEAL FIT.
First step; DEFINE YOUR IDEAL OF A FIT HEALTHY PERSON. What does that person believe, their attitude, behavior and any other characteristics that person may possess?
NOW! With that information rank on a scale of 1 -10 (1 not me, 10 being that’s me). Where do you fall right now, comparing yourself to your IDEAL FIT HEALTHY PERSON.
Take a minute to look at your rankings and list of items, which one’s would you like to improve for yourself on that list? Keep in mind this is YOUR IDEAL IMAGE of a FIT HEALTHY PERSON. Do your answers surprise you? Or are you confirming what you already know about yourself.
Now take a minute and read back through all your answers and really think. How do my answers make me feel? Really explore it! DO THEY MOTIVATE YOU TO GET MOVING AND GIVE YOU A SENSE OF DIRECTION OR? DO THEY MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE A FAILURE WANTING TO CRAWL INTO A HOLE, NEVER GO OUT OF THE HOUSE BECAUSE YOU FEEL AS IF YOU WILL NEVER BE THAT “IDEAL FIT PERSON”?
These answers can be very telling in how you are showing up to be your own version of that “IDEAL FIT PERSON”. If your “IDEAL” makes you feel inadequate, and makes you feel as if you will never achieve that “IDEAL” then here is your chance to STOP!
It’s time to stop basing “Your Ideal” on some assumptions, and beliefs that are not your own. They are based on values that are driven by fear. Your fear of not “fitting in”, not being “good enough”, not being “good looking”, not being “attractive”, not being “liked”, ETC.
Yes, fear can be a motivator and get you moving. Fear can also eventually drain you and leave you exhausted! This is exactly why using fear as a motivator usually results in a negative outcome. There can be so many beliefs, assumptions and demons that pop into your head when you are seeking to change for your best. These are the very thoughts that hold us back from embracing the process and enjoying the journey.
Here is a list of some life events that can derail the process;
- Gaining some weight,
- Not fitting into our clothes
- Can’t keep up with our kids
- Breaking a bone
- Hurting our back
- Eating a whole cake
- Feeling as if you have no “self-control”, or “will-power”
- Feeling to tired to workout
Also, telling yourself you SUCK, is not motivating and only works for so long. This is where the rubber hits the road when it comes to finding your “IDEAL FIT PERSON”.
In many cases the messages and conversations you are having with yourself may be keeping you from being your true “IDEAL FIT PERSON”. If you have been struggling with this for a while? It’s time to embrace this exercise for all it is worth.
You may even be feeling completely conflicted by your old beliefs, assumptions and ideals. This often happens when you are trying to reconcile them with what you really WANT and DESIRE as your “IDEAL FIT SELF”.
HOORAY! Now take a minute to visualize yourself as that “IDEAL FIT SELF”, (let go of any of those images you used to have in your head);
How does that feel?
What are your behaviors?
How is your attitude?
Have you changed your overall outlook on life?
What does that look like?
Write this down, but, if you still can’t get past the fog. It’s time to take a step back and ASK YOURSELF! “What is really holding me back?”
This exercise is a great opportunity to clearly define what may be holding you back from finding your “IDEAL FIT PERSON.
The struggle exists between what we believe a “FIT PERSON” SHOULD do, versus what we really want to do as our “FIT SELF”. As you experience more awareness. Your existing beliefs may or may not be serving your goals as a “FIT PERSON. This will allow your mind to be freed of old beliefs! Which will leave room to create and visualize your own personal image of your “IDEAL FIT SELF”.
It is all about giving you the CHOICE to be who you want to be!
Have been struggling with finding your path and identity around what being “FIT” truly means to you, then this exercise will help.
Now if you feel you need a little more “guidance” or clarity around your “fitness”, feel free to email me, or join my email inner circle.
Always in your corner cheering you on!